Contributing Author: Gentle Heron
Three words can put too much pressure on you: “never,” “always,” and “must.”
When you set your life change goals, using these words does not allow flexibility.
While you may think “I will never eat a candy bar again” is a reasonable diet goal, it will make you feel too guilty about an occasional lapse. Leave room for a treat once in a while.
“I will always have only a small salad for lunch” can be set aside when your best friend from college visits for a day.
“I must not eat dessert with dinner” is too restrictive if your family is having a reunion picnic.
Try to avoid using those three dangerous words in your internal dialogue.